The Meaning Behind the Message

The words we utter are not necessarily at fault for the emotional pain they cause. The actual guilty culprit is our tone, our body language and our eyes. These are the beasts that cause another’s heart to bleed, for they breathe life into the communication and taint the message with an underlying meaning. They create a situation which causes the recipient to feel less loved, or less lovable after the exchange. Even ‘I love you’ or ‘I’m sorry’ can sound threatening and sarcastic when delivered with anger and venom. 

 We’ve all, at one time or another, been there – on both sides of the situation. We’ve spoken without thinking, and we’ve been the recipient of unkind words. In either case, the key to a heightened understanding is compassion. Climbing outside of yourself long enough to ‘steps into the shoes’ of another will alter the way you approach all communication. It places you in a better position to distinguish when a person speaking harshly is reacting from an internal pain. It also causes you to hesitate before giving an emotionally based retort.In sum, one way to expand our personal level of integrity, facilitate interactions founded in kindness and elevate the vibration on this plane is to be mindful of our effects on others through the art of compassion.         

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